Walking to school with a cigarette dangling out of their mouth - it's so... 50s.
Letting guys feel you up on the bonnet of a car on a busy street in broad daylight. Walking around outside in itsy bitsy nighty and walking around swearing like a trooper is just CHEAP.
Where do these girls learn these things? Why do they think it's cool?
I had some male input and asked why girls deem it necessary to act so cheap. Apparently these girls want to "get laid", to put it the way the men see it.
If that's the case, then why do they cry rape or at the least act surprised when they are dumped? Why do the mothers then start blaming the daughters?
Girls are under the impression that sex is love, or at least the path to love. That is just warped.
When men are offered a hot available body on a silver platter they are bound to grab at it with both hands - no pun intended. Truth is men don't see anything long term with a cheap woman, or girl.
Where are the mothers, who are supposed to be the biggest influence on the young girls?
We are failing them, mothers. Step up and teach your daughter how being "cool" could ruin your life.
Society is experiencing moral decay and we can stop it by instilling good values and dignity into our daughters.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
The marriage debate
With so many options available these days, marriage seems to be the least favoured option amongst new couples. Women let go of the young girl dreams of white dresses and rose-petals in favour of several long term relationships spread throughout their lives.
A recent poll on a website saw 1497 people voting on whether marriages should expire after 7 years... (Perhaps a few smacks on the head would cure The 7year Itch for the person suggesting the poll?)
The options were as follows:
10,69% of people voted that marriages should expire after 7 years.
16,96% of the voters agreed that contracts should be re-evaluated every few years.
13,56% thought that marriage is an unnecessary institution.
I was pleasantly surprised to see that 58,78% believed in "'Til death do us part".
There's a lot of controversy regarding this issue and many people are finding it hard to find the right person to share the rest of their lives with, therefore opting rather for a committed relationship with less legalities involved.
Some opt for marriage with ante-nuptial contracts, which is beneficial to both parties in the event of divorce or to protect parties against pre-existing legal issues. Would you marry someone who insists on an anti-nuptial contract? Does that mean they don't love you enough to share?
So who's right? It depends which aspect you are looking at it from. Rules for marriages differ for different religions, so we cannot comment on all of those - I'm merely commenting on what I know and that does not serve as judgment on any people with different opinions or religions. That is something they will answer to when the time is right. It affects me in no way.
From the moral aspect - it all depends again on what you see as moral. The lines are pretty blurred! I believe that by marrying someone you give your all to that person - your heart and your body - and to that person alone.
Then the question of divorce. The Bible is quite clear on divorce for Christians - it's a no-no! Yet, for some people divorce is the only option: abuse, affairs and the like.
It all boils down to societal rot. In the days of the Bible things were not like they are now. There were none of the temptations that are there today and moral rot was dealt with appropriately.
Marriage, which used to be a happy event of celebration of the love between two people is now meaningless and there's a 50% chance that those two people standing in front of a marriage official will be standing in front of the divorce court in 3 years time.
A friend asked me a question recently which I could not answer. "As a Christian, what defines marriage?" - I don't know the Bible well, but she said that she's never read that a marriage official has to declare you married, only that the Bible says "..a man found a woman and made her his wife". Anyone have an answer to that question?
Another (non-Christian) friend brought up another interesting aspect: Who is more "married"
- a couple married in front of a priest, friends and family, yet they have no respect for each other and mess around? OR
- a couple in a committed relationship where they don't mess around and are committed to one another?
Regarding the 7 year itch - I think that's either a feeble excuse to mess around or laziness on the part of both partners to work on their relationship. Relationships take work. After 7 years of marriage Wade and I are closer than ever under very different circumstances from most normal couples. If we can make it work - everyone can!
I'd like your input into this as I want to use it as material for my upcoming book!
Watch this space!
A recent poll on a website saw 1497 people voting on whether marriages should expire after 7 years... (Perhaps a few smacks on the head would cure The 7year Itch for the person suggesting the poll?)
The options were as follows:
10,69% of people voted that marriages should expire after 7 years.
16,96% of the voters agreed that contracts should be re-evaluated every few years.
13,56% thought that marriage is an unnecessary institution.
I was pleasantly surprised to see that 58,78% believed in "'Til death do us part".
There's a lot of controversy regarding this issue and many people are finding it hard to find the right person to share the rest of their lives with, therefore opting rather for a committed relationship with less legalities involved.
Some opt for marriage with ante-nuptial contracts, which is beneficial to both parties in the event of divorce or to protect parties against pre-existing legal issues. Would you marry someone who insists on an anti-nuptial contract? Does that mean they don't love you enough to share?
So who's right? It depends which aspect you are looking at it from. Rules for marriages differ for different religions, so we cannot comment on all of those - I'm merely commenting on what I know and that does not serve as judgment on any people with different opinions or religions. That is something they will answer to when the time is right. It affects me in no way.
From the moral aspect - it all depends again on what you see as moral. The lines are pretty blurred! I believe that by marrying someone you give your all to that person - your heart and your body - and to that person alone.
Then the question of divorce. The Bible is quite clear on divorce for Christians - it's a no-no! Yet, for some people divorce is the only option: abuse, affairs and the like.
It all boils down to societal rot. In the days of the Bible things were not like they are now. There were none of the temptations that are there today and moral rot was dealt with appropriately.
Marriage, which used to be a happy event of celebration of the love between two people is now meaningless and there's a 50% chance that those two people standing in front of a marriage official will be standing in front of the divorce court in 3 years time.
A friend asked me a question recently which I could not answer. "As a Christian, what defines marriage?" - I don't know the Bible well, but she said that she's never read that a marriage official has to declare you married, only that the Bible says "..a man found a woman and made her his wife". Anyone have an answer to that question?
Another (non-Christian) friend brought up another interesting aspect: Who is more "married"
- a couple married in front of a priest, friends and family, yet they have no respect for each other and mess around? OR
- a couple in a committed relationship where they don't mess around and are committed to one another?
Regarding the 7 year itch - I think that's either a feeble excuse to mess around or laziness on the part of both partners to work on their relationship. Relationships take work. After 7 years of marriage Wade and I are closer than ever under very different circumstances from most normal couples. If we can make it work - everyone can!
I'd like your input into this as I want to use it as material for my upcoming book!
Watch this space!
Thursday, October 18, 2007
10 Steps to a more Positive Life
What can you do to live a happier life and make people experience you as a person they want to be around?
1.Find something you believe in – be it your inner child, your higher me or God, you need someone you can rely on to be there for you in times of need or something to be happy about every day. Make time twice a day or how ever often you need to get in touch with your beliefs to soothe your soul.
2.Smile – a smile is contagious. As is a negative demeanour. If everything around you is crumbling, then look inside yourself. Is your attitude causing you to experience things negatively? For things to change you have to change.
3.Be of value – to your family, your friends and people that you don’t know. Do something for someone – it may not take away from you, but it will give them a lot of joy. Instead of giving money to a charity and feeling great that you have done your bit – rather give time. Show someone you care about them in deed.
4.Don’t hold grudges – learn to forgive. An unforgiving soul is a dead soul. When someone makes you angry they own your emotions and have the power to make you unhappy. Nobody should have that power. Things done to you may seem huge in your eyes – the person responsible may not even know that you were offended and therefore they don’t dwell on it like you do.
5.Rid yourself of toxic relationships – any relationships that cause you hurt, anger, resentment, guilt or anxiety are toxic and you should remove them out of your life. Spend time with people that mean a lot to you. Open up your heart and learn to live a little!
6. Exercise – a healthy body is home to a healthy heart. Get your muscles moving, your heart pumping and blood flowing. You’ll feel more relaxed, energised and your body will look toned and healthy.
7. Work on your relationship with your significant other – sure you’re a very special person, but so are they. Show them how much they mean to you and remember that magic relationships do exist and you too can have one. See www.createrelationshipmagic.blogspot.com
8. Be kind – stop criticising people. Remember that you see in others what you can’t accept about yourself. Rather find the good in everyone. If you don’t share the same core beliefs, just don’t discuss them. Focus on something you do have in common. Don’t steamroller people to make things go your way. They are people in their own right and are entitled to their opinions.
9. Pamper yourself – as often as you need it. Have some me time when you can do something that makes you happy without any interruptions. At the same time, think about things that make you happy and affirm your dreams and goals. Focus on things that you love about your life and things you want to achieve.
10. Stop dwelling on the past and focus on the future that is in your hands. Don’t punish the people currently in your life for the mistakes of other people. No two people are the same and nobody should carry the blame for another’s mistakes.
A positive attitude will stand you in good stead throughout your life. Good experiences will become better and with time, negative experiences will diminish and eventually disappear.
1.Find something you believe in – be it your inner child, your higher me or God, you need someone you can rely on to be there for you in times of need or something to be happy about every day. Make time twice a day or how ever often you need to get in touch with your beliefs to soothe your soul.
2.Smile – a smile is contagious. As is a negative demeanour. If everything around you is crumbling, then look inside yourself. Is your attitude causing you to experience things negatively? For things to change you have to change.
3.Be of value – to your family, your friends and people that you don’t know. Do something for someone – it may not take away from you, but it will give them a lot of joy. Instead of giving money to a charity and feeling great that you have done your bit – rather give time. Show someone you care about them in deed.
4.Don’t hold grudges – learn to forgive. An unforgiving soul is a dead soul. When someone makes you angry they own your emotions and have the power to make you unhappy. Nobody should have that power. Things done to you may seem huge in your eyes – the person responsible may not even know that you were offended and therefore they don’t dwell on it like you do.
5.Rid yourself of toxic relationships – any relationships that cause you hurt, anger, resentment, guilt or anxiety are toxic and you should remove them out of your life. Spend time with people that mean a lot to you. Open up your heart and learn to live a little!
6. Exercise – a healthy body is home to a healthy heart. Get your muscles moving, your heart pumping and blood flowing. You’ll feel more relaxed, energised and your body will look toned and healthy.
7. Work on your relationship with your significant other – sure you’re a very special person, but so are they. Show them how much they mean to you and remember that magic relationships do exist and you too can have one. See www.createrelationshipmagic.blogspot.com
8. Be kind – stop criticising people. Remember that you see in others what you can’t accept about yourself. Rather find the good in everyone. If you don’t share the same core beliefs, just don’t discuss them. Focus on something you do have in common. Don’t steamroller people to make things go your way. They are people in their own right and are entitled to their opinions.
9. Pamper yourself – as often as you need it. Have some me time when you can do something that makes you happy without any interruptions. At the same time, think about things that make you happy and affirm your dreams and goals. Focus on things that you love about your life and things you want to achieve.
10. Stop dwelling on the past and focus on the future that is in your hands. Don’t punish the people currently in your life for the mistakes of other people. No two people are the same and nobody should carry the blame for another’s mistakes.
A positive attitude will stand you in good stead throughout your life. Good experiences will become better and with time, negative experiences will diminish and eventually disappear.
God DOES Love You
Hi, Wade here.
I want to share my story with you and I hope it touches you.
I am a born again Christian, praise God! My journey with
the Lord has been tough and for one reason only, to grow
spiritually.
Years ago I started to pray to God. ( I had not accepted
Jesus as my savior). The more I prayed the worse things
got. I lost my business, house, car, dignity "friends"
everything. For years my wife and I struggled to make
income, feed ourselves etc. This developed a great anger
in me towards the Lord. I use to curse him, swear at him
and actually hated him. We have two small children and
my wife use to fear that God would take our kids away.
I did not care, I was going to let God know that I was
angry towards him. Years later with my back firmly against
the wall I had the audacity to turn to God. I went to a
Pastor and told him my situation and asked him to pray
for me. He said I would only if I accepted Jesus as my
saviour. I did this, I had nothing to lose.
There was nothing earth shattering after that, no rush
of the Holy Spirit, no hallelujah moment. In fact not
much changed in my life.
Long story short only this year did I get anointed and
filled with the Holy Spirit. I want to tell you that God
loves you and wants you to come to him. He wants to prosper
you. His word says so and by golly his word is true.
I can write books of miracles he has performed in my life
daily. I want to reach out to anyone who is suffering right
now. I want to pray for you. We can pray via telephone or
Skype. I want to share my story with you so that you can
find the joy of the Lord like I have. Feel free to contact
me and I would love to chat with you about the Lord Jesus
Christ and the peace he can give you.
I want to close by sharing this scripture with you.
Ephesians: 3:20: Now glory be to God who by his
mighty power at work within us is able to do far more
than we would ever dare to ask or even dream of-infinitely
beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts or hopes.
God loves you.
Christian Myspace Comments
I want to share my story with you and I hope it touches you.
I am a born again Christian, praise God! My journey with
the Lord has been tough and for one reason only, to grow
spiritually.
Years ago I started to pray to God. ( I had not accepted
Jesus as my savior). The more I prayed the worse things
got. I lost my business, house, car, dignity "friends"
everything. For years my wife and I struggled to make
income, feed ourselves etc. This developed a great anger
in me towards the Lord. I use to curse him, swear at him
and actually hated him. We have two small children and
my wife use to fear that God would take our kids away.
I did not care, I was going to let God know that I was
angry towards him. Years later with my back firmly against
the wall I had the audacity to turn to God. I went to a
Pastor and told him my situation and asked him to pray
for me. He said I would only if I accepted Jesus as my
saviour. I did this, I had nothing to lose.
There was nothing earth shattering after that, no rush
of the Holy Spirit, no hallelujah moment. In fact not
much changed in my life.
Long story short only this year did I get anointed and
filled with the Holy Spirit. I want to tell you that God
loves you and wants you to come to him. He wants to prosper
you. His word says so and by golly his word is true.
I can write books of miracles he has performed in my life
daily. I want to reach out to anyone who is suffering right
now. I want to pray for you. We can pray via telephone or
Skype. I want to share my story with you so that you can
find the joy of the Lord like I have. Feel free to contact
me and I would love to chat with you about the Lord Jesus
Christ and the peace he can give you.
I want to close by sharing this scripture with you.
Ephesians: 3:20: Now glory be to God who by his
mighty power at work within us is able to do far more
than we would ever dare to ask or even dream of-infinitely
beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts or hopes.
God loves you.
Christian Myspace Comments
Christianity VS Atheism
The ongoing debate regarding Christianity and atheism has led me to write this blog.The main issue wish to address is this argument about all the sorrow in the world, death, rape, murder, robberies, illness, etc.
For those of us who are born again spirit filled Christians the understanding is that God gave us choice. He did not create robots but gave us free will.Now my solution will not solve all the worlds trials and tribulations but will go close to improving the situation.
I also want to clear up another matter close to my heart. This theory that there are Christians and there are"Christians". For those of you who do not believe or who have no understanding about Christianity, God is going to judge all of us believers and non believers. Revelations talks about the wrath of God on judgment day in no uncertain terms! Now for anyone to pose as a Christian to further their own purposes here on earth how do you think God will judge impostors? The Bible warns of the wolf in sheep's clothing. So please let's get over this futile argument. There are Christians and there are impostors. If someone posing as a Christian does you in on a business deal they would have anyway. You have to trust the person on merit not whether you think they are Christians or impostors.
Getting back to my point re the sorrows of the world. I myself have asked why does God allow all the suffering that goes on in the world. Here is what I have come up with. The Bible talks of us being filled with the love, peace and joy of Jesus Christ. We are told to live like this and adhere to the ten commandments. The Bible says we have power through Jesus Christ to heal the sick, if only we have faith. Now this solution is aimed at all the unsaved people that commit horrendous crimes and atrocities against mankind. Imagine if you will that all Christians around the world payed it forward and made it their aim to lead just three people to the Lord. Those 3 did the same and so on and so on. What would eventually happen is that the criminals, drug lords, pimps, prostitutes etc would get saved and become Christians. Eventually ( in my world) there would be no crime. This would be a great place to start. Now let's get to the healing of the sick. I have experienced the power of prayer regarding healing personally and have heard of countless testimonies of people who have been healed by prayer. So imagine all these Christians now standing in agreement in prayer for healing of the sick? Wow! Do you think God would be well pleased and deliver the miracle of healing? I know he would.
The unemployment issue can also be sorted out as God has created so many employment opportunites today it is frightening. Imagine all of humanity working together to achieve prosperity and abundance instead of competing for crumbs? God is a limitless God.
A lot of what has been said will be foreign to unbelievers, I can assure you from personal experience that God wants you to prosper, that the power of prayer is uncanny. Maybe God is just waiting for the world to get its act together?
Lastly for those of you who passionately disbelieve and call this a myth or dream, my question to you is, What if Jesus does exist, what if all that is in the Bible is true? What if judgment day is going to happen? What is your reward for not believing? I know what my reward is for believing.
For those of us who are born again spirit filled Christians the understanding is that God gave us choice. He did not create robots but gave us free will.Now my solution will not solve all the worlds trials and tribulations but will go close to improving the situation.
I also want to clear up another matter close to my heart. This theory that there are Christians and there are"Christians". For those of you who do not believe or who have no understanding about Christianity, God is going to judge all of us believers and non believers. Revelations talks about the wrath of God on judgment day in no uncertain terms! Now for anyone to pose as a Christian to further their own purposes here on earth how do you think God will judge impostors? The Bible warns of the wolf in sheep's clothing. So please let's get over this futile argument. There are Christians and there are impostors. If someone posing as a Christian does you in on a business deal they would have anyway. You have to trust the person on merit not whether you think they are Christians or impostors.
Getting back to my point re the sorrows of the world. I myself have asked why does God allow all the suffering that goes on in the world. Here is what I have come up with. The Bible talks of us being filled with the love, peace and joy of Jesus Christ. We are told to live like this and adhere to the ten commandments. The Bible says we have power through Jesus Christ to heal the sick, if only we have faith. Now this solution is aimed at all the unsaved people that commit horrendous crimes and atrocities against mankind. Imagine if you will that all Christians around the world payed it forward and made it their aim to lead just three people to the Lord. Those 3 did the same and so on and so on. What would eventually happen is that the criminals, drug lords, pimps, prostitutes etc would get saved and become Christians. Eventually ( in my world) there would be no crime. This would be a great place to start. Now let's get to the healing of the sick. I have experienced the power of prayer regarding healing personally and have heard of countless testimonies of people who have been healed by prayer. So imagine all these Christians now standing in agreement in prayer for healing of the sick? Wow! Do you think God would be well pleased and deliver the miracle of healing? I know he would.
The unemployment issue can also be sorted out as God has created so many employment opportunites today it is frightening. Imagine all of humanity working together to achieve prosperity and abundance instead of competing for crumbs? God is a limitless God.
A lot of what has been said will be foreign to unbelievers, I can assure you from personal experience that God wants you to prosper, that the power of prayer is uncanny. Maybe God is just waiting for the world to get its act together?
Lastly for those of you who passionately disbelieve and call this a myth or dream, my question to you is, What if Jesus does exist, what if all that is in the Bible is true? What if judgment day is going to happen? What is your reward for not believing? I know what my reward is for believing.
Why it's hard living righteously
So many times have I heard people say “I can’t become a Christian as I am a sinner. I drink and will have to stop in order to be a good Christian – I am just not prepared to sacrifice.” I myself have said similar things in the past.
Recently I switched on Trinity Broadcast Network on DSTV and a preacher made a funny comment as I sat down, so I decided to watch it.
The sermon was about Law and the Grace of God and the message was liberating.
During the times of the Old Testament, God was a punishing God. He gave Moses the Laws for the people to obey and those who did not obey, experienced God’s wrath.
When God sent His Son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, He gave us grace. He sent the Holy Spirit as an intercessor between God and us. To be a “good Christian” all we have to do is walk with the Holy Spirit and obey the one commandment: Loving God with all our heart, mind and soul and loving our neighbours as ourselves.
When we obey this law, we would be under the Grace of God and we wouldn’t easily commit sins. Even when we do commit sins in moment of weakness, we will not become habitual sinners and it will be much easier to repent.
Recently I switched on Trinity Broadcast Network on DSTV and a preacher made a funny comment as I sat down, so I decided to watch it.
The sermon was about Law and the Grace of God and the message was liberating.
During the times of the Old Testament, God was a punishing God. He gave Moses the Laws for the people to obey and those who did not obey, experienced God’s wrath.
When God sent His Son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, He gave us grace. He sent the Holy Spirit as an intercessor between God and us. To be a “good Christian” all we have to do is walk with the Holy Spirit and obey the one commandment: Loving God with all our heart, mind and soul and loving our neighbours as ourselves.
When we obey this law, we would be under the Grace of God and we wouldn’t easily commit sins. Even when we do commit sins in moment of weakness, we will not become habitual sinners and it will be much easier to repent.
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Hello & Welcome
We are Wade and Lizette and live in Johannesburg, South Africa with our wonderful twins, John-Ross and Deborah.
It took us a long time to find God, years of hardship and strife. We were financially and spiritually bankrupt. Nothing we did seemed to succeed and whatever could go wrong, did indeed. We thought we were cursed.
We now know that it was satan all along, preventing us from getting closer to God and we allowed it. What a waste of precious time!
With mentoring from a few friends and many prayers of family members, finally we became born again and finally spirit-filled.
The Bible has become our handbook of life and we seek advice from there daily. We find strength in the scriptures and guidance from the Holy Spirit.
We'd like to be mentors unto you and stand in agreement with your prayers. God will meet you at your point of need.
Contact us now:
Wade on Skype: wadebalsdon or email: wadebalsdon@webafrica.org.za
Lizette on Skype: lizettestoffberg or email: lizette_s@webafrica.org.za
God Bless You
Christian Comments
We are Wade and Lizette and live in Johannesburg, South Africa with our wonderful twins, John-Ross and Deborah.
It took us a long time to find God, years of hardship and strife. We were financially and spiritually bankrupt. Nothing we did seemed to succeed and whatever could go wrong, did indeed. We thought we were cursed.
We now know that it was satan all along, preventing us from getting closer to God and we allowed it. What a waste of precious time!
With mentoring from a few friends and many prayers of family members, finally we became born again and finally spirit-filled.
The Bible has become our handbook of life and we seek advice from there daily. We find strength in the scriptures and guidance from the Holy Spirit.
We'd like to be mentors unto you and stand in agreement with your prayers. God will meet you at your point of need.
Contact us now:
Wade on Skype: wadebalsdon or email: wadebalsdon@webafrica.org.za
Lizette on Skype: lizettestoffberg or email: lizette_s@webafrica.org.za
God Bless You
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